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How to Repair a Broken Heart?

If you are suffering from a broken heart, do not worry, you are not the only one. A lot of people fall into relationships that are not suitable for them. The end of a relationship means the beginning of a period of healing for both people. If the break up was not mutual the person who ended things may be dealing with guilt and feelings that made a mistake. The person being broken up with will definitely have to adjust to being rejected and to live a life without their lover. How do you get through those first few weeks? Here are a few things everybody must do in the early days of a break up to let the healing begin.
First, start a journal. This will help you sort out your thoughts; feelings and emotions like writing a list of all the things that bugged you about him/her, focus on all the things about your past lover that drove you crazy. Think about these things often and replay them in your mind over and over. Then write it down and post it by your mirror. It will make you feel better to remember that your past lover was not perfect and that there are things you won’t really miss. Or talk out your feelings with close friends. Get everything out so that you won’t hold it inside. Your friends may get sick of hearing you talk about the situation but you need to let out all your feelings and thoughts. Cry if you want to. It’s alright to cry over a loss. Don’t hold back, let the tears roll. Their purpose is to cleanse you of any pain.
Second, distract yourself by doing something you've never done before every day. This could mean walking the neighbor's dog or playing Scrabble with your mom. You can learn sign language or learn a card trick and then impress your friends with your new magic skills. Plus, you can volunteer for your favorite cause. There are bigger things out there than anyone. If you can't then go on an adventure by yourself: see a movie, or to the beach. It's good to remember how to hang out just with yourself. Go to the zoo. The monkeys might remind you of him/her which in the end helps you to recognize why it's best you're not still a couple.
Third, move the furniture around in your room. Redecorate your space. You might just need a fresh look on things to cheer you up like planting some flowers in the yard, or in a pot for your windowsill. Change your look by dying your hair a funky temporary color like purple.
Forth, let go of mementos. Put away or give away anything and everything that reminds you of the relationship. Hide them out of sight so they will be out of mind until you are able to remember the relationship without longing for it to still be going strong or a better idea Have a garage sale and sell all of the presents he/she gave you during your relationship.
Finally, mending a broken heart is not easy but it can be done. Just stick to the notes above and before you know it you’ll be just fine and even better than you were in a relationship. Good luck!